Shift house again!
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Shifted to here.
New Blog
Will slowly transfer my prev post there.
See ya!
Tuesday, August 05, 2008 3:32 PM
COA
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After some glasses of port and vomiting, finally cleared my head and decided my Course of Action. Been blur abt myself recently. Finally seen thru all these clouds and saw what I have to do.
Is this COA best? I will not know until the results are shown. But tt is the best I can do now to be at peace with myself. Will twick along the way if needed. I also dun know if I can stick to it. Its a test of my perseverance and strength. I need to do something to make me believe in my worth again.
You have your priorities right. Have I? I guess so. I also know what I need to do and will do without any resentment.
Watch out, you have not seen the rest of me...yet. ;)
Monday, July 07, 2008 11:03 AM
New Bag
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Hee.... got this bag from ebay auction for almost > 50% off the original price in S'pore. V^^
Nice hor...
But I did a silly miscalculation. I used vPost for my next bag and I end up having to pay abt S$30 more for the shipping rather than direct from the seller. :(
Should have asked him not to pack it in such a big box... *sob sob*. Will post the next loot when I've received it..
Sunday, June 22, 2008 11:56 AM
Ruby
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Hmm... Ben had a new toy! Its a chihuahua given to him by a long time friend. Cute little thing but a bit eccentric and attitude. Haha... needs a lot of attention and love. :)
She was jealous of me the other day when I went to his place. She sulked and hide under the sofa in the living room the whole night not even responding to Ben when he tried to tease/play with her. She must be upset at Ben for not giving her attention when he was out for the whole day yet paying more attention to me than her.
Well, at least I know my placing is not behind a dog. :p
She became defensive and growl at me whenever I went near her. The cutest thing was that she kaypoed and stick her head out to make sure I did not follow them into the room when she finally gets to be alone with Ben. Haha..
Here is a nice pic of her taken by Ben. Cute hor? I am sure I will get into her good books soon...;)
Sunday, June 22, 2008 11:39 AM
Vision
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Hmmm..... the tots of using a laptop to earn money has always been on my mind recently. And I even had this vision of me doing presentation and running ard with my laptop. Do you think it's really a vision? /:(
Doing internet biz? Getting real time info on stock markets? :p Mybe acct servicing or sales job?
Shit! I need to get a life!
I need to led a more productive life!
Just got an idea! Heee
Wednesday, June 18, 2008 3:41 PM
3G iPhone
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My next phone & PDA.... ^^
Monday, June 16, 2008 4:59 PM
Ambulance parade
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Wahahah....this is the first time I see so many ambulances side by side. Taken at CGH... still got 2 more behind (lens not wide enough) heh. Look very majestic hor.. :p
Wednesday, May 28, 2008 10:22 AM
Soulmates
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My definition of a soul mate is
- Your best friend
- whom you can count to give you support
- whom you can relied on
- whom you can be totally yourself with
- whom will listen to you when you talk
- whom will make you happy
- whom you can share your joys/dreams/fears/sadness with
- whom love you as you are
- whom you will want to make him/her happy
- whom you will want to sacrificed for
- whom can fulfilled you and you him/her
- whom you can grow together
- whom may make you sad/frustrated but you still love him/her and want to be together
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A prev entry
9 Ways of Marrying The Wrong Person - by Rabbi Dov Heller, M.A.
3. You pick the wrong person because the man doesn't understand what a woman needs most. Men and women have unique emotional needs, and more often than not, it is the man who just doesn't "get it".
Jewish tradition places the onus on the man to understand the emotional needs of a woman and to satisfy them. The unique need of a woman is to be loved -- to feel that she is the most important person in her husband's life. The husband needs to give her consistent, quality attention. This is most apparent in Judaism's approach to sexual intimacy. The Torah obligates the husband to meet the sexual needs of his wife. Sexual intimacy is always on the woman's terms. Men are goal-oriented, especially when it comes to this area. As a wise woman once pointed out, "Men have two speeds: on and off." Women are experience-oriented. When a man is able to switch gears and become more experience-oriented, he will discover what makes his wife very happy. When the man forgets about his own needs and focuses on giving his wife pleasure, amazing things happen.
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Have you found yours?
Saturday, May 24, 2008 1:27 PM
Damn Cat Killers
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What makes them more superior to take others life? >:(
STOMP
I hope the killer will get his just deserts!
Friday, May 23, 2008 6:40 AM
Men are from Mars. Women are from Venus II
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Coping with Stress in Mars and Venus
- To feel better, Martians go to their cave to solve problems alone. So when a man feel stress at work or when solving a problem, he will tend to withdraw and turned cold. He need to excuse himself to be alone from all other distractions in order to find a solution.
When he can't find a solution immediately, he will engage in activities like reading newspaper, watching TV, playing games... things that take his mind away from the stress or problems. When he is feeling relaxed and good abt himself like wining the game he is playing, he can handle the situation better and refreshed.
A men feels good when he can solve his problems on his own in his cave.
- To feel better, Venusians get together to talk openly abt their problems. I think most ppl can identify with this point. A woman under stress is not immediately concerned with finding solutions to her problems but rather seeks relief by expressing herself and being understood. By randomly talking abt her problems, she becomes less upset.
To feel better, women talk abt past problems, present problems, future problems. Rather than focusing on 1 problem at a time like man, talking abt all the problems without focusing on problem solving make them feel better. Through exploring her feelings in this process, she gains a greater awareness of what is bothering her and she is no longer so overwhelmed.
- How Women react to the Cave
When a man is stuck in his cave, he is powerless to give his partner the quality attention she deserves. It is hard for her to accepting of him at this time because she does not know how stress he is. If she had known, she would be more compassionate. Because of the difference in coping with stress or unhappiness, a woman will not know a man is in that situation because he does not talk about his problem. When he react indifferent or distant, she feels hurt.
By understanding your man need his personal space to recuperate, you will do both good if you can let him go to his cave. Trust that he will come back to you once he talk it out with himself. He will thank you for being understanding of his needs. When he is out, then it is his turn to reassure his woman that he is still there for her.
- How Men react when Women wants to talk
When women talk about problems, men usually resist. Men talk about problems for only 2 reasons: they are blaming someone or they are seeking advise. Naturally when a woman talks about problems, he feels responsible.
If the woman is really upset, a man assumes she is blaming him. If she sound less upset, then he assumes she is asking for advice. Instead of just letting the woman vents her frustration just by listening to her, he tries to fix her problems or defend himself so that she will feel better. When the woman does not react and feel better instead may feel worse, he feels defeated and frustrated. He is now less patient with his partner and an augment may break out.
It will really help the situation if the man can just listen to her rantings without feeling responsible or offended. After a woman feels she has been heard and understood, she will calm down and be in a better form to talk more objectively and less critically.
*Disclaimer (my own :p) : The above are for generalised situations. But there are also times when it is otherwise. This is just another alternative insight that you may want to consider instead of jumping straight into the conclusion as we always tends to. Be more patient with your partners, you will find that you will have a more fulfilled relationship.
Thursday, May 22, 2008 9:14 AM
Men are from Mars. Women are from Venus
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I first read this book when I was 19. It rings thru then. Then I forgot most of the concepts in it and so recently I've re-read it. I will only be sharing the gist here. To gain the most, pls read the book yourself... :)
Mr Fix-It and the Home Improvement Committee
- A man's sense of self is defined through his ability to achieve results
- To offer a man unsolicited advice is to presume that he doesn't know what to do or that he can't do it on his own.
- Generally speaking, when a woman offers unsolicited advise or tries to "help" a man, she has no idea of how critical and unloving she may sound to him.
- A man needs to feel he is in control and he can settle all problems by himself. He pride himself if he can achieve that. By offering advices when he did not ask is to demean his ability and he will feel offended.
- A woman's sense of self is defined through her feelings and the quality of her relationships.
- Many times a woman just wants to share her feelings about her day, and her husband, thinking he is helping, interrupts her by offering a steady flow of solutions to her problems.
- She does not need her partner to solve her complaints. She just need a listening ear. Her man should practice just listening and empathizing. He need not agree with all she complaints. Just act like you do is already a great gift to her. Of cos you must sound convincing too. A woman is very sharp when it comes to her man. :)
- Men need to feel admired by their women. Trust that he can solve the problems by himself. He will ask for help when he needs it. By trusting that your man is trying his best to make you happy, you will appreciate him more and be less critical of him. He will feel like a knight in shinning amour when he can fulfilled his woman.
- When our partner resist us it is because we have probably make a mistake in out timing or approach.
Things to try this week
Men: Learn to listen to your partner without giving her solutions or be defensive that it is your fault for her unhappiness. She may sound like blaming you in the beginning, but once you really empathise with her and see things in her shoes, she will be appreciative and back to her loving self
Women: Learn to bite your tongue whenever you feel like criticising your man. Try to think back instead of the little things that he has done for you and be grateful that he is putting in effort to make you happy. Trust that he will make you happy.
Tuesday, May 20, 2008 8:59 AM
SMS
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Got this SMS from a friend..... hmm... what say you?
1月25日, 雪灾＝天灾
3月14日，藏独＝人祸
5月12日，地震＝地灾
1+2+5=08
3+1+4=08
5+1+2=08
08年08月08日 奥运会
地震发生那天正好是距离奥运会88天，都是巧合？
真是佩服李白，在唐朝就知道今年奥运，地震了：
北暮沧山兰舟四
京无落霞缀清川
奥年落叶缘分地
运水微漾人却震
前四个子－－北京奥运
后四个子－－四川地震
Monday, May 19, 2008 3:29 PM
Tributes to the deceased of the Earthquake
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孩子，快抓紧妈妈的手- 三春晖
(献给在四川大地震中遇难的孩子们)
孩子快抓紧妈妈的手去天堂的路太黑了妈妈怕你碰了头快抓紧妈妈的手让妈妈陪你走妈妈怕天堂的路太黑我看不见你的手自从倒塌的墙把阳光夺走我再也看不见你柔情的眸孩子你走吧前面的路再也没有忧愁没有读不完的课本交不完的答卷你要记住我和爸爸的模样来生还要一起走妈妈别担忧天堂的路有些挤有很多同学朋友我们说不哭哪一个人的妈妈都是我们的妈妈哪一个孩子都是妈妈的孩子没有我的日子你把爱给活着的孩子吧妈妈你别哭泪光照亮不了我们的路让我们自己慢慢的走妈妈我会记住你和爸爸的模样记住我们的约定——来生还要一起走
http://bbs.cnr.cn/thread-300309-1-1.html
狙击手
狙击手漠视身边的哀吼
毫无筛选 一击任凭被带走
突如其来 宿命来不及追究
谁能逃避无情的眼眸
劫后余生仍考验力量的去留
Monday, May 19, 2008 3:03 PM
失物
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很多人遗失，
很多人丢弃，
很少人捡起 - 勇气这东西。
-1月2003年
moodles 图画库
Friday, May 16, 2008 2:23 PM
??
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Eh... guess its the time again. The feeling sad period? :/
Met Eleena, my batch ger from WOCC today at Kester's father's wake. So happens that Kester's sis is her understudy. It makes me think back.....how life would be if I'm still in the force.
There are 3 major decisions that I've made so far.... and I'm starting to regret 2 of them. Does that mean I did bad decisions? I dun know. Damn sian lor.
And guess what? It was KY that pronounced Kester's father DOA. Hmm... I'm sure it feels funni when you have to pronounced someone you know to be dead. Well, part and parcel of our job bah.
Cyclones, earthquakes.... well, maybe the world is really coming to an end. Might as well.... look at the human species now.
Thursday, May 15, 2008 7:38 PM
TTSH
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这张照片是我在送了个紧急病人后拍的。这是 TTSH 的 resus area. 我也不知为什么，只想把这夜深人静的一幕拍下。
Monday, May 12, 2008 3:56 PM
Poor Joven
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Poor Joven broke his collarbone! But being his naughty and active self, he was up and smiling in no time. Check out the following... *rolleyes*
Monday, May 12, 2008 3:45 PM
A sad case
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Went for an RTA case during my last duty. That was my first trauma arrest case....and a child somemore. Sad. So were my whole crew. First time for all of us. At least there is something for the sec com to reminisce when he goes back from his attachment.
Sad case. But an experience for all of us.... rest in peace boy.....
Saturday, April 26, 2008 5:25 AM
商机
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Wah.... was trying to nap after my night shift but cannot sleep. My whole mind is just thinking of ways to start a biz! I've a few ideas but still need to do some research to see if it is viable. Really.... since I spend so much time in front of the comp and I have 2 off days. I really think I should use these time to make more money. To create multiple stream of income.... Best if it is passive income.
I should first read up more on investment. I actually am pretty scared cos I'm never good at math and I hate numbers. But maybe I shall take this up as a personal challenge to improve myself.
Next is to do what I really like. Selling handicraft stuff bah. I like to sew and knit and do all sorts of handicraft. Then maybe I will teach dancing. If all these make money, then maybe I can quit my present job.... :p Haha.
Need to inspire myself more like watching "理财有方". Brought back all those ambitions and ways to handle your personal finance. I mean I still do it now.... but not consciously. Target.... to build my wealth...haha.
Saturday, April 12, 2008 5:25 AM
Interview
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Yo... I'm being interviewed on radio leh..V^^
Haha, FM97.2 requested for a paramedic to do an interview on some first aid knowledge then I was being "volunteered".. -.-" But frankly I dun mind lar (hiao mah..heee). It was a pre-recorded one and will be split into a few days, 1 qn a day.
First heard my own voice over the radio....hey, sound quite nice leh... :p Hopefully I din disgrace the force...haha. Hmm... maybe I can do a career switch and be a DJ... :p
Wednesday, April 09, 2008 12:21 PM
